Whew – what a weekend! I got to see so many people that I haven’t seen in a very long time, and although it was quite tiring to do so much driving, it was totally worth it.
Friday night was a quiet one for us. I left work earlier in the afternoon with plans on taking a nap before the kids got home from school, but then I ended up running into Laur when I was downtown and went to have a coffee with her. That ended up getting me home about my normal time.
I laid down for a bit when I did get home. After about half an hour, I told Hubby that I was going to get up and get supper started. Next thing I knew, an hour had passed and I was still in bed. I’m thinking I fell back asleep! I made dinner for the family (we have been dining late!) and then sat with Hubby to watch a bit of TV. Hubby went to bed around 10 or so that evening, and although I had a nap, I ended up following him around 10:30 and I slept quite soundly until after 7 on Saturday. (I was obviously very tired.)
Saturday morning I had both of the boys make sure their rooms were tidy. Hubby and I were heading to Cuz’s house for the night and I had a friend coming to my place for the night. She was coming with her mom and son, and I didn’t quite know how the sleep arrangements were going to work for the evening, so I wanted all of the linens to be fresh and clean, and all of the rooms straightened up – just in case. I got all of the linens changed, set out fresh towels for everyone, and prepared a note for Bear.
Hubby and I got on the road about half an hour later than I had planned, but that was still okay. We had a few hours before the start of the surprise 50th birthday party, but I wanted to have a bit of time to just catch up with Cuz before we had to get moving again. We had a great afternoon followed by a very tasty Moose roast for dinner!
Off we went to the 50th birthday party. It was very nice to have the chance to see everyone again, but it can sometimes be overwhelming to have that many people in a house. I found at the end of the night that I hadn’t really had an opportunity to spend much time with as many people as I would have liked.
The next morning I was quite surprised at how late Hubby and I had slept! This time Cuz had put us up in the basement, and I guess the darkening blind really made a big difference for us. Hubby and I woke up about half an hour before I had been hoping to get heading home. We were just getting our first coffee of the day when the birthday girl called to let us know she was coming over for some additional visit time. It was very nice to have that extra hour with her, that is for sure. (Even made some plans to come and visit Cuz again in a few weeks so that I can have a chance to see some friend's new homes. Both now live near Cuz and I was complaining about not getting to see their homes! I am going to be missing a group dinner, but I won't be too upset about missing that!)
Hubby and I made really good time coming back home. I arrived to the 100th birthday party only about 15 minutes after it began, and I had even made it in time for the guest of honour’s entrance! He had a piper lead him in to the hall. I must say, for someone that is now 100 years old, he was quite spry. I can only hope that if I were to live to that age that I would be able to walk myself into the party at the clip he walked!
I’m not sure if my favourite part of the day was the opportunity to get to see so many faces that I haven’t seen in so long, or watching the ‘birthday boy’ take a drive off the 10th hole of the golf course. Now legally blind, he hasn’t been able to play golf in over 5 years, but yesterday afternoon, he was lead by the bagpipes out to the course where he took an honourary drive for his guests prior to having some family pictures taken.
I didn’t have a chance to spend near enough time with Bear, but it sounds like the A-man did his very best to make sure they were comfortable in our house with Hubby and I not being there. It sounds like he was keeping them in stitches for most of the night, and also made sure that everyone was ‘taken care of.’ He prepared the pizza, and in the morning even made scrambled eggs for Bear’s mom! Who knew I had such a host in my eldest son?! (I’m not really surprised, though, given the amount of times Hubby and I entertain, it only makes sense that he would know what sorts of things to do and offer to guests.)
Had a pretty quite Sunday evening where I got all the laundry caught up and spent some time just taking it easy.
~~~
The boys both received excellent report cards. The A-man ended up with a 76% average with his English mark pulling him down a bit. There is some room for improvement in both that course and his Math course, but I am not upset with anything any of the teachers had to say.
S brought home a report card that shows him with a 78% average! I am so proud of him! His Geography mark isn’t quite as high as I believe him capable of, but that isn’t really a subject that he is overly interested in (I never was either) so I have just reminded him that he needs to make sure he gets everything done and handed in on time. He did very well in both Skills for Success and Music, and his Science mark was quite good for him, too. All of the comments were very positive.
The beams were just shinning as they were coming out of his smile when he gave me that report card.
I am very proud of both of them.
Showing posts with label self-esteem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-esteem. Show all posts
Monday, November 23, 2009
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Do they even have a clue?
Was quite surprised by a telephone call I received from S’s teacher yesterday. She was calling to tell me the balance of the amount *I* will have to pay for the Grade 8 trip this year.
We’ve made two installments for S’s trip, but when the first installment was due, I had called and talked to the principal about what I should be sending in for my portion. At that time, she had indicated to me that things were going really well with S and that I may not even have to take the trip with the class. The second date for installment payment came, and again, I wasn’t advised of needing to send my portion of the payment. Then, this.
I wish to heaven that this school would figure out what it wants to do.
I called the Principal last night to discuss this further. “Remember the conversation we had back in the Fall where you indicated that you didn’t think I would have to go?” She did, but I guess she had never expressed this to the teacher and/or EA. It’s fine – I will go on the trip if that is what I need to do to ensure that S can go, but I told the Principal that I was NOT comfortable with having S share a room with me.
If they want him to act like all the other kids in Grade 8, then they need to treat him the same. All of the students will be sharing rooms with other students – not their mother. It will be bad enough for him to have me along on the bus, never mind not getting to have the fun and excitement of sharing a room with a friend. (Mind you, he only has one friend in Grade 8 and I don’t know that this boy would want to share a room with S. They haven’t been as close the past couple of years… But still, he needs to be given that option, not be told “You are sharing a suite with your mother not a friend.”)
Talk about making the poor kid even MORE different than he already is.
I will hold fast to this one – I will not be sharing a room with him. I don’t want to be difficult, but if they are going to insist I’m there, they are going to have me in the background with as little involvement as needed. I’ll be there for S, but that’s it. I will even pay extra if that is what I need to do. Heck, the school should chip in some $$ towards it.
They have a staff member that is supposed to be assigned to S and she apparently can’t do her job on a daily basis never mind while on a field trip. Now I have to take three days out of my job, my home, husband and other child, plus pay $300 (or maybe even more) to have the honour of embarrassing the bejeesus out of my son, to boot. Nope – not gonna do it. They will put him in with his peers. Period.
I’m sure there will be many more discussions about this in the coming months. I’m so looking forward to it. (Yeah, right…and pigs fly!)
Truth be told, I am not upset about the trip – I like Ottawa and would appreciate the chance to revisit this city, but I just don’t like the waffling and see-sawing that is going on here. And I will not cause S any undue stress over it. Hopefully they will see my point early in the game.
We’ve made two installments for S’s trip, but when the first installment was due, I had called and talked to the principal about what I should be sending in for my portion. At that time, she had indicated to me that things were going really well with S and that I may not even have to take the trip with the class. The second date for installment payment came, and again, I wasn’t advised of needing to send my portion of the payment. Then, this.
I wish to heaven that this school would figure out what it wants to do.
I called the Principal last night to discuss this further. “Remember the conversation we had back in the Fall where you indicated that you didn’t think I would have to go?” She did, but I guess she had never expressed this to the teacher and/or EA. It’s fine – I will go on the trip if that is what I need to do to ensure that S can go, but I told the Principal that I was NOT comfortable with having S share a room with me.
If they want him to act like all the other kids in Grade 8, then they need to treat him the same. All of the students will be sharing rooms with other students – not their mother. It will be bad enough for him to have me along on the bus, never mind not getting to have the fun and excitement of sharing a room with a friend. (Mind you, he only has one friend in Grade 8 and I don’t know that this boy would want to share a room with S. They haven’t been as close the past couple of years… But still, he needs to be given that option, not be told “You are sharing a suite with your mother not a friend.”)
Talk about making the poor kid even MORE different than he already is.
I will hold fast to this one – I will not be sharing a room with him. I don’t want to be difficult, but if they are going to insist I’m there, they are going to have me in the background with as little involvement as needed. I’ll be there for S, but that’s it. I will even pay extra if that is what I need to do. Heck, the school should chip in some $$ towards it.
They have a staff member that is supposed to be assigned to S and she apparently can’t do her job on a daily basis never mind while on a field trip. Now I have to take three days out of my job, my home, husband and other child, plus pay $300 (or maybe even more) to have the honour of embarrassing the bejeesus out of my son, to boot. Nope – not gonna do it. They will put him in with his peers. Period.
I’m sure there will be many more discussions about this in the coming months. I’m so looking forward to it. (Yeah, right…and pigs fly!)
Truth be told, I am not upset about the trip – I like Ottawa and would appreciate the chance to revisit this city, but I just don’t like the waffling and see-sawing that is going on here. And I will not cause S any undue stress over it. Hopefully they will see my point early in the game.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Now I understand why tigers eat their young... ;o)
I don’t know what has been going on with the A-man lately. He is just so grouchy all the time, and for the last couple of days, he seems to be set off at the smallest thing. I don’t know how many times I have heard, “I’m so tired” from him, yet when I suggest he goes to bed earlier, he doesn’t go.
This morning he was up early – almost a full hour before his bus was set to arrive – yet, again this morning he was ‘rushed’ at the last minute and wasn’t ready. I reminded about half an hour before the bus was to arrive that he needed to shower. He grunted and went in to his bedroom. 15 minutes later, I open the door to his room to see what he is doing; he’s lying in bed. Now, with only 15 minutes until the bus arrives, I tell him he is going to be pressed to both shower and dress in time, and I get yelled at because he still “needs to go to the washroom!”
He went to the washroom and was back in his room with plenty of time to dress, yet I was calling him to tell him the bus was approaching the house. He did not have his shower. For the second day in a row.
I was just alerted by a text message – it was the A-man asking S to do something that he forgot, I guess. I replied that it was being done, and that I was not very impressed with him this morning. Will be interesting to see if (or how) he responds.
He responded with “I’m sorry Mom. I will do better from now on.”
I don’t want him to feel guilty, but at this point in his life, I want him take a bit more responsibility for his own personal hygiene and self care! Will have to try and explain all of this to him tonight, I guess. Hopefully I catch him in the right frame of mind, and if not, it will have to wait.
I called S’s school yesterday to talk to the principal about my participation in the Grade 8 end of year trip. S has told us the first installment for the trip is due tomorrow, yet I haven’t been told if I (as a chaperone) will receive a discounted rate. S has expressed a few times that he doesn’t want me to go – he thinks it will be embarrassing to be the only student to have his mom there.
I can understand his point, but given his history, I can also see why the school feels that it is important I attend. Anyway, when I was talking to the principal, I told her how nice it has been to not be in constant contact with the school and how S has been having such a great year. (touching wood, now) The Principal then told me that she had been approached by S’s EA and that the EA didn’t think it would right to have me on the trip.
Now, I’m not sure if I should be insulted or not. This is the same women that wouldn’t allow S to go on the bike trip at the end of last school year unless I could attend, and yet she now doesn’t want me to go with them to Ottawa? This is a three day trip, and is more than 5 hours from home!
Hopefully she is requesting this because S has been having such a good year that she doesn’t think its necessary, but still, I don’t think that as his EA that should be her call. The decision must be that of mine and the principal. Period. The Principal and I left it that I would submit payment for S’s portion of the trip, and we would simply address my participation as the time got closer and we would then have a better feeling of S’s state of mind, etc. I would like for him to not have to have me there – it would be great for him – but I am going to have to keep that option open, just in case.
This morning he was up early – almost a full hour before his bus was set to arrive – yet, again this morning he was ‘rushed’ at the last minute and wasn’t ready. I reminded about half an hour before the bus was to arrive that he needed to shower. He grunted and went in to his bedroom. 15 minutes later, I open the door to his room to see what he is doing; he’s lying in bed. Now, with only 15 minutes until the bus arrives, I tell him he is going to be pressed to both shower and dress in time, and I get yelled at because he still “needs to go to the washroom!”
He went to the washroom and was back in his room with plenty of time to dress, yet I was calling him to tell him the bus was approaching the house. He did not have his shower. For the second day in a row.
I was just alerted by a text message – it was the A-man asking S to do something that he forgot, I guess. I replied that it was being done, and that I was not very impressed with him this morning. Will be interesting to see if (or how) he responds.
He responded with “I’m sorry Mom. I will do better from now on.”
I don’t want him to feel guilty, but at this point in his life, I want him take a bit more responsibility for his own personal hygiene and self care! Will have to try and explain all of this to him tonight, I guess. Hopefully I catch him in the right frame of mind, and if not, it will have to wait.
I called S’s school yesterday to talk to the principal about my participation in the Grade 8 end of year trip. S has told us the first installment for the trip is due tomorrow, yet I haven’t been told if I (as a chaperone) will receive a discounted rate. S has expressed a few times that he doesn’t want me to go – he thinks it will be embarrassing to be the only student to have his mom there.
I can understand his point, but given his history, I can also see why the school feels that it is important I attend. Anyway, when I was talking to the principal, I told her how nice it has been to not be in constant contact with the school and how S has been having such a great year. (touching wood, now) The Principal then told me that she had been approached by S’s EA and that the EA didn’t think it would right to have me on the trip.
Now, I’m not sure if I should be insulted or not. This is the same women that wouldn’t allow S to go on the bike trip at the end of last school year unless I could attend, and yet she now doesn’t want me to go with them to Ottawa? This is a three day trip, and is more than 5 hours from home!
Hopefully she is requesting this because S has been having such a good year that she doesn’t think its necessary, but still, I don’t think that as his EA that should be her call. The decision must be that of mine and the principal. Period. The Principal and I left it that I would submit payment for S’s portion of the trip, and we would simply address my participation as the time got closer and we would then have a better feeling of S’s state of mind, etc. I would like for him to not have to have me there – it would be great for him – but I am going to have to keep that option open, just in case.
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Off again...
Boss and I have a lunch 'date' today. Review time... I sure hope I am able to get the raise amount that I have calculated. He knows I've been very patient with this, so hopefully he will make it worthy, you know?
The boys had a PA day last Friday, which gave them a four day weekend. The A-man was greatly annoyed that he had been assigned both History and Science homework "over a holiday." I told him to get used to it - that's life. I also suggested that he consider the Friday as a special work day, and if he got the homework all done that day, technically he wouldn't have homework on the holiday weekend. He didn't buy that.
By supper time on Monday, though, the A-man was finished all of him homework. I did ask him about it once over the weekend, but after that, I decided it was time to just let him schedule himself, and see where the chips fell. I'm proud of him - he did it.
Actually, it would appear he did it pretty well. Got an 84% on the History report, and hasn't yet received the Science back. I would think he did okay; he's a natural at Science.
S has become the General Manager of the boys' volleyball team at school. I guess his EA is a team coach, and in order to still coach the team during lunch and still do her job with S, she had to give him something to do to justify him being there. He's thrilled. The other day I gave him his money for a team shirt, and was so proud to come home and show it to all of us. It even has "GM" on the back where others would have a number. He'll be traveling to away games with the team, and I have reminded him that proper behaviour is a must at ALL events.
The first game is next Tuesday - a home game. I can tell that for S, having a 'special' job is such an esteem booster. He's such a great kid... I just wish other kids his age would be able to accept his quirkiness. Perhaps in time the Aspergers would be quite so pronounced and he will be better accepted by peers. Maturity - of both S and his peers - should also help...
I am all packed a ready to go on my birthday get-away with friends. My bags are packed and Sammy will be here around 4 this afternoon to head to the airport. The others will be meeting us there. Just checked the weather in Vegas, and it is supposed to be in the high 80's every day we are there. Nights a bit cooler (high 50's, low 60's), but I think we will be able to handle that. Certainly no frost to contend with!
Hubby and the boys will be participating in a trout derby this weekend. It's the big fund-raiser for the Fishing Club we belong to; the A-man will also be earning some volunteer hours over the weekend.
The boys had a PA day last Friday, which gave them a four day weekend. The A-man was greatly annoyed that he had been assigned both History and Science homework "over a holiday." I told him to get used to it - that's life. I also suggested that he consider the Friday as a special work day, and if he got the homework all done that day, technically he wouldn't have homework on the holiday weekend. He didn't buy that.
By supper time on Monday, though, the A-man was finished all of him homework. I did ask him about it once over the weekend, but after that, I decided it was time to just let him schedule himself, and see where the chips fell. I'm proud of him - he did it.
Actually, it would appear he did it pretty well. Got an 84% on the History report, and hasn't yet received the Science back. I would think he did okay; he's a natural at Science.
S has become the General Manager of the boys' volleyball team at school. I guess his EA is a team coach, and in order to still coach the team during lunch and still do her job with S, she had to give him something to do to justify him being there. He's thrilled. The other day I gave him his money for a team shirt, and was so proud to come home and show it to all of us. It even has "GM" on the back where others would have a number. He'll be traveling to away games with the team, and I have reminded him that proper behaviour is a must at ALL events.
The first game is next Tuesday - a home game. I can tell that for S, having a 'special' job is such an esteem booster. He's such a great kid... I just wish other kids his age would be able to accept his quirkiness. Perhaps in time the Aspergers would be quite so pronounced and he will be better accepted by peers. Maturity - of both S and his peers - should also help...
I am all packed a ready to go on my birthday get-away with friends. My bags are packed and Sammy will be here around 4 this afternoon to head to the airport. The others will be meeting us there. Just checked the weather in Vegas, and it is supposed to be in the high 80's every day we are there. Nights a bit cooler (high 50's, low 60's), but I think we will be able to handle that. Certainly no frost to contend with!
Hubby and the boys will be participating in a trout derby this weekend. It's the big fund-raiser for the Fishing Club we belong to; the A-man will also be earning some volunteer hours over the weekend.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Better morning. Only slightly though
For the third day in a row, I have found myself getting angry with S because he just won't get out of bed!
This morning, though, when I went in to his room to get him up, I woke him with a glass of water and his medications in my hand. I thought that if I got the ADHD medication in to him right away, maybe the rest of the morning would go a little smoother than normal. After he actually got up, it did go better.
That's the trick - get the meds in to the body as soon as they wake up. (Will repeat this step for sure.)
Hubby had the task of making sure S completed his homework last night. It was Science, I do believe. S brought his laptop home for the first time this year, too. He told me that his scanner still isn't working, but the principal and the SERT have both assured him that it will be working within the week.
Had a note in the agenda from the EA the other day about S needing certain things for his French class. Part of the note was crossed off by the SERT asking me to send her an email about this.
The SERT is trying to introduce a Social Skills class to the school, and the class would replace the French class. To date, she hasn't been able to get everything finalized for the class, but the SERT has informed the French teacher of the possible exemption, so I guess they have worked out an accommodated program for S. Again - what a crazy concept. Why didn't I ever think of that in the past?
Oh, that's right - I did. And the teacher refused to have anything to do with any accommodations. Gee, I'm really going to miss that teacher...
The A-man is still really enjoying his Hospitality and Tourism course. He hasn't really said much about the other classes, other than to complain about having a History project assigned on the second day of school. Project is due tomorrow, but he claims he turned it in on Tuesday. I really wish he had let me see the end result before he turned it in. (He needs a bit of assistance with his proof-reading...)
I know I need to let go a bit on the follow up, but I've had to do it for so long, it's a tough one for me to do. I don't want to tell him how to DO the work - I just want to be able to ensure it's his BEST work. (Okay, okay - I hear you... let him turn it in and deal with the consequences. It's just really hard to do that!!)
Had flowers delivered to the office for me yesterday. Pretty autumn coloured centre piece. Jazzy's mom and I met for lunch today, and she gave me a bouquet of sunflowers. I feel so loved. :o)
Cuz gave me the cutest kettle I have ever seen! I will be taking some pictures tonight and should be able to get them on here in a while. I love days that are "all about me!!"
This morning, though, when I went in to his room to get him up, I woke him with a glass of water and his medications in my hand. I thought that if I got the ADHD medication in to him right away, maybe the rest of the morning would go a little smoother than normal. After he actually got up, it did go better.
That's the trick - get the meds in to the body as soon as they wake up. (Will repeat this step for sure.)
Hubby had the task of making sure S completed his homework last night. It was Science, I do believe. S brought his laptop home for the first time this year, too. He told me that his scanner still isn't working, but the principal and the SERT have both assured him that it will be working within the week.
Had a note in the agenda from the EA the other day about S needing certain things for his French class. Part of the note was crossed off by the SERT asking me to send her an email about this.
The SERT is trying to introduce a Social Skills class to the school, and the class would replace the French class. To date, she hasn't been able to get everything finalized for the class, but the SERT has informed the French teacher of the possible exemption, so I guess they have worked out an accommodated program for S. Again - what a crazy concept. Why didn't I ever think of that in the past?
Oh, that's right - I did. And the teacher refused to have anything to do with any accommodations. Gee, I'm really going to miss that teacher...
The A-man is still really enjoying his Hospitality and Tourism course. He hasn't really said much about the other classes, other than to complain about having a History project assigned on the second day of school. Project is due tomorrow, but he claims he turned it in on Tuesday. I really wish he had let me see the end result before he turned it in. (He needs a bit of assistance with his proof-reading...)
I know I need to let go a bit on the follow up, but I've had to do it for so long, it's a tough one for me to do. I don't want to tell him how to DO the work - I just want to be able to ensure it's his BEST work. (Okay, okay - I hear you... let him turn it in and deal with the consequences. It's just really hard to do that!!)
Had flowers delivered to the office for me yesterday. Pretty autumn coloured centre piece. Jazzy's mom and I met for lunch today, and she gave me a bouquet of sunflowers. I feel so loved. :o)
Cuz gave me the cutest kettle I have ever seen! I will be taking some pictures tonight and should be able to get them on here in a while. I love days that are "all about me!!"
Monday, August 18, 2008
Backyard changes
I came home from my annual “Girl’s Weekend” at the cottage to a very different looking back yard. Three trees that had been there on Friday morning we gone, as were the stumps and any evidence that they had ever been there! Each of these trees were dead, and I have been bugging Hubby for the better part of two years to get rid of them before one of them fell on the house.
The wooden swing that was incorporated in to one section of my garden had been moved, and a tractor was digging up that section of my garden when I arrived. The stump, roots, etc. from that particular tree was very big and had been giving the guys a bit of grief. I could almost FEEL the satisfaction come from both men when they were finally able to chain that stump and haul it out of there.
A very large circle – about 30 feet in diameter – has been dug out of the lawn, and somewhat graded to a level area. The circle was a bit closer to the garden area than I had originally requested, but I guess the grade of the property was such that a retaining wall would have been necessary, so they made an executive decision. Retaining walls are not exactly in the budget right now.
The only thing I was unhappy to see was where the fallen trees had been moved. The cucumbers, zucchini, and about half of my tomatoes plants are now covered with cut up trees. >:o(
I guess they didn’t realize how close they were getting to the garden? I can hardly even get IN to that one section of the veggie plants now! I am going to see if I can salvage my poor little plants tonight, but I am not holding out much hope. I guess the sacrifice of some veggie plants is a small price to pay for the assistance of a very good friend and his digger/tractor thing.
I asked what the boys had thought about the tractor, and Hubby was telling me that S actually drove it, and did a little bit of digging. During dinner, S was sure to regale me with the great stories of him “taming the beast!” It was nice to see the excitement in his eyes.
I think both boys realize that they won’t likely get to use the pool this season as it won’t be warm enough for them, but I have assured them that if they want to get in, I will let them give it a go. Our friend that was helping with the digging said that they rarely use their pool after Labour Day because the nights get too cool and the pool doesn’t warm up much. I guess we will just have to wait and see what happens.
The wooden swing that was incorporated in to one section of my garden had been moved, and a tractor was digging up that section of my garden when I arrived. The stump, roots, etc. from that particular tree was very big and had been giving the guys a bit of grief. I could almost FEEL the satisfaction come from both men when they were finally able to chain that stump and haul it out of there.
A very large circle – about 30 feet in diameter – has been dug out of the lawn, and somewhat graded to a level area. The circle was a bit closer to the garden area than I had originally requested, but I guess the grade of the property was such that a retaining wall would have been necessary, so they made an executive decision. Retaining walls are not exactly in the budget right now.
The only thing I was unhappy to see was where the fallen trees had been moved. The cucumbers, zucchini, and about half of my tomatoes plants are now covered with cut up trees. >:o(
I guess they didn’t realize how close they were getting to the garden? I can hardly even get IN to that one section of the veggie plants now! I am going to see if I can salvage my poor little plants tonight, but I am not holding out much hope. I guess the sacrifice of some veggie plants is a small price to pay for the assistance of a very good friend and his digger/tractor thing.
I asked what the boys had thought about the tractor, and Hubby was telling me that S actually drove it, and did a little bit of digging. During dinner, S was sure to regale me with the great stories of him “taming the beast!” It was nice to see the excitement in his eyes.
I think both boys realize that they won’t likely get to use the pool this season as it won’t be warm enough for them, but I have assured them that if they want to get in, I will let them give it a go. Our friend that was helping with the digging said that they rarely use their pool after Labour Day because the nights get too cool and the pool doesn’t warm up much. I guess we will just have to wait and see what happens.
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Onward we go
Darn, darn, darn and drat!
Just looked at the weather predictions, and of course it is supposed to RAIN all weekend. This is the weekend that I told the males of my house that we would be clearing up (and burning) yard shrub, etc. We have so much over-growth in the yard, if we tackle it early in the year it won't get too out of control. Yeah, supposed to rain. Oh well, I guess we will just have to put on rain ponchos along with the work gloves, because it is getting done. I am away next weekend, and I can't trust that the work would get done to my level of satisfaction if I'm not there to supervise. (I'm so bossy, I know...)
This morning was the A-man's appointment in ambulatory care for his ingrown toe nail. He REALLY did not like getting the freezing done. Funny thing was, I thought it was fascinating - sort of - but then suddenly I got all woozy and light headed. The doctor took one look at me, and called for the nurse to bring a sturdy, steady chair ASAP. Once I sat, I started to feel a bit better, but she rushed to get me a cool cloth, and some apple juice. Apparently my reaction to seeing my child in that much agony was normal, but I still felt like a wimp. After the procedure, the A-man whined and complained enough, I allowed him to stay home from school today. He can't wear his one shoe, and I didn't have the forethought to bring a sandal for him.
S had History homework last night. When I sat down beside him to see if I could offer any help, he just looked at me and said, "I've got this Mom - you don't need to sit right there. I'm okay."
Just before that comment, I found out that S had a project due today - one that I knew nothing about. He sure was pleased to be able to show me what he had done, and how he had done it.
His laptop has this program that will let him set things up in a graphic-organizer type way, and during one of his training sessions, he was shown how to use it. He loves the technology and the way it makes things 'easier' for him. It's just wonderful that he doesn't realize he is still doing the same work, it's just in a more technologically advanced way than what he used to have to do! I am just thrilled that he is finally get the opportunity to show the teachers what he is capable of once the learning strategies are all in place!
The A-man had finished his English just before I got home from work, and he finished his Math right after dinner. Neither of them 'needed' me, so I went over to a friend's place for a little while! I think I'm going to adjust to these more mature children very well...
Just looked at the weather predictions, and of course it is supposed to RAIN all weekend. This is the weekend that I told the males of my house that we would be clearing up (and burning) yard shrub, etc. We have so much over-growth in the yard, if we tackle it early in the year it won't get too out of control. Yeah, supposed to rain. Oh well, I guess we will just have to put on rain ponchos along with the work gloves, because it is getting done. I am away next weekend, and I can't trust that the work would get done to my level of satisfaction if I'm not there to supervise. (I'm so bossy, I know...)
This morning was the A-man's appointment in ambulatory care for his ingrown toe nail. He REALLY did not like getting the freezing done. Funny thing was, I thought it was fascinating - sort of - but then suddenly I got all woozy and light headed. The doctor took one look at me, and called for the nurse to bring a sturdy, steady chair ASAP. Once I sat, I started to feel a bit better, but she rushed to get me a cool cloth, and some apple juice. Apparently my reaction to seeing my child in that much agony was normal, but I still felt like a wimp. After the procedure, the A-man whined and complained enough, I allowed him to stay home from school today. He can't wear his one shoe, and I didn't have the forethought to bring a sandal for him.
S had History homework last night. When I sat down beside him to see if I could offer any help, he just looked at me and said, "I've got this Mom - you don't need to sit right there. I'm okay."
Just before that comment, I found out that S had a project due today - one that I knew nothing about. He sure was pleased to be able to show me what he had done, and how he had done it.
His laptop has this program that will let him set things up in a graphic-organizer type way, and during one of his training sessions, he was shown how to use it. He loves the technology and the way it makes things 'easier' for him. It's just wonderful that he doesn't realize he is still doing the same work, it's just in a more technologically advanced way than what he used to have to do! I am just thrilled that he is finally get the opportunity to show the teachers what he is capable of once the learning strategies are all in place!
The A-man had finished his English just before I got home from work, and he finished his Math right after dinner. Neither of them 'needed' me, so I went over to a friend's place for a little while! I think I'm going to adjust to these more mature children very well...
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Reflecting
When I arrived home yesterday afternoon, the boys were outside - in the very deep snow - playing baseball. After that they got in to a rousing game of football, which was interesting considering the amount of snow they were trying to run through. I know Spring must be close when I see my children actually going outside - on their own accord - to play. The temps were just above freezing, but yesterday had been so sunny, it almost seemed tropical. (Notice that I said "almost")
Not sure what is going to happen today at work - Boss gave assistant a bit of an ultimatium. I may be looking for another assistant before too long. (sigh)
I went to an information session for the ADHD association last night. What a great session! We had a number of new faces at the meeting, and you could just tell that they were brand new to the whole "Special Education" world. Boy, do I ever remember being in their shoes!
You have SO many questions, and you hear all these acronyms and terms, and you have NO idea what any of it means... it can be daunting for even the most willful of people.
The part that I find most effective in these sessions is the second hour - the hour that is 'open forum' where people get to just discuss what is important to them.
Some people rant - gosh it's nice to be with others that really, truly understand.
Others want advice - my son is lying all of time...how can I get him to stop?" (So typical of the ADHD child...)
And others are just there to help share their years' of experience with the ADHD child. They have 'children' that are in their late teens - these are the true battle veterans that have "been there, done that."
Although the organization may not be very large, it DOES help people understand this often confusing disorder known as ADHD. I just wish we could reach more people! We have a very good board, and we are doing our darndest to get our information out there, but I have found the stigma associated with ADHD is not always the best. Gotta love the media.
Mind you, with jerks like "The Tourette Guy" on the internet, that disorder doesn't get very positive attention, either. Come to think of it, most of the disorders that affect either one, or both of my children, have some pretty negative stereo-types attached to them... Gee, no wonder I felt like a failure as a parent for so many years. At least now I know that I dealt with the cards I was dealt in the best way I could, and now, my kids are pretty darn awesome! :o)
Not sure what is going to happen today at work - Boss gave assistant a bit of an ultimatium. I may be looking for another assistant before too long. (sigh)
I went to an information session for the ADHD association last night. What a great session! We had a number of new faces at the meeting, and you could just tell that they were brand new to the whole "Special Education" world. Boy, do I ever remember being in their shoes!
You have SO many questions, and you hear all these acronyms and terms, and you have NO idea what any of it means... it can be daunting for even the most willful of people.
The part that I find most effective in these sessions is the second hour - the hour that is 'open forum' where people get to just discuss what is important to them.
Some people rant - gosh it's nice to be with others that really, truly understand.
Others want advice - my son is lying all of time...how can I get him to stop?" (So typical of the ADHD child...)
And others are just there to help share their years' of experience with the ADHD child. They have 'children' that are in their late teens - these are the true battle veterans that have "been there, done that."
Although the organization may not be very large, it DOES help people understand this often confusing disorder known as ADHD. I just wish we could reach more people! We have a very good board, and we are doing our darndest to get our information out there, but I have found the stigma associated with ADHD is not always the best. Gotta love the media.
Mind you, with jerks like "The Tourette Guy" on the internet, that disorder doesn't get very positive attention, either. Come to think of it, most of the disorders that affect either one, or both of my children, have some pretty negative stereo-types attached to them... Gee, no wonder I felt like a failure as a parent for so many years. At least now I know that I dealt with the cards I was dealt in the best way I could, and now, my kids are pretty darn awesome! :o)
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Interesting
On Saturday, both boys were acting a little more crazy that what we have been experiencing for the last few years. I found myself giving reminder after reminder, and the A-man was the biggest offender. He was doing things to intentionally irritate his brother. After about 9 hours of it, Hubby lost his temper. Hubby doesn't often loose his temper - takes a LOT to make that happen. As a result, all electronics (computer, TV, video games, etc.) were banned for Sunday.
As I was going to bed (for the final time) on Saturday, the A-man apologized for acting so silly, and then told me that he had not taken his medication that day. I told him that I accepted his apology, but I also told him that medicated or not, he needs to realize when he is being annoying, or silly, or rude, and HE has the power to cease. I told him that the medication is meant to be an item of assistance - to help with concentration - not to be 'blamed' or 'praised' for good or bad behaviour. He knows how he should be acting, and he was not behaving as an almost 15 year old should.
Anyway, Sunday was very nice here, I must admit. There were chess games, and monopoly. There was a romp out in the snow, and there was helping me with cleaning up the house! Everyone was just so much nicer to each other, and I don't think either of them missed the electronics. Around dinner time - as Hubby and I were visiting with my Dad - the boys were allowed to watch TV because you could tell they weren't enjoying the adult conversation. At supper time, I pointed out how much more civilized our household seemed, and all agreed. We are now going to make sure to have pre-determined "non-electronic" time on a regular basis.
Last night, after dinner, I went to a horticultural society meeting. I haven't been to one in well over a year, since the meeting nights always conflicted with S's karate nights. But, since he isn't in karate anymore, that option is now open to me again. Last nights topic - plants for shade, and drought resistance. The speaker wasn't all that good, but it sure was nice to be able to just sit around and talk about plants.
When I got home, both boys had finished all of their homework, and S was heading off to bed. The A-man and I hung out for a bit, then it was off to bed for us. Hubby was in bed when I got home, but I think he had just gone there. He came home from work today - sick again. This is not like him.
On the school front for S: got an email from the SERT yesterday telling me that I would be getting a term-three revised IEP, and she also wanted to know how S liked his training session and the new programs that are on the laptop. I told her how this past weekend was the first time I have ever seen S happy about doing his homework. The stress level seemed to be gone - simply because he doesn't have to struggle with reading AND comprehending what he is reading. She asked me what my thoughts were on him having a novel study assignment, and I told her that I want to see him doing GRADE LEVEL work, and I only want accommodations as needed. I guess we are on the same page, because she seemed happy with my response.
S is a bright boy. He has an average, to above average IQ. He simply does not learn in the conventional way, and now that he finally has all of the devices in place to enable him to learn, I think he SHOULD be doing the work the rest of the class is doing. We shall see how Term 3 goes. He seems so much happier now, and he is much better about going to school. Have we crossed that bridge? I hope so.
As I was going to bed (for the final time) on Saturday, the A-man apologized for acting so silly, and then told me that he had not taken his medication that day. I told him that I accepted his apology, but I also told him that medicated or not, he needs to realize when he is being annoying, or silly, or rude, and HE has the power to cease. I told him that the medication is meant to be an item of assistance - to help with concentration - not to be 'blamed' or 'praised' for good or bad behaviour. He knows how he should be acting, and he was not behaving as an almost 15 year old should.
Anyway, Sunday was very nice here, I must admit. There were chess games, and monopoly. There was a romp out in the snow, and there was helping me with cleaning up the house! Everyone was just so much nicer to each other, and I don't think either of them missed the electronics. Around dinner time - as Hubby and I were visiting with my Dad - the boys were allowed to watch TV because you could tell they weren't enjoying the adult conversation. At supper time, I pointed out how much more civilized our household seemed, and all agreed. We are now going to make sure to have pre-determined "non-electronic" time on a regular basis.
Last night, after dinner, I went to a horticultural society meeting. I haven't been to one in well over a year, since the meeting nights always conflicted with S's karate nights. But, since he isn't in karate anymore, that option is now open to me again. Last nights topic - plants for shade, and drought resistance. The speaker wasn't all that good, but it sure was nice to be able to just sit around and talk about plants.
When I got home, both boys had finished all of their homework, and S was heading off to bed. The A-man and I hung out for a bit, then it was off to bed for us. Hubby was in bed when I got home, but I think he had just gone there. He came home from work today - sick again. This is not like him.
On the school front for S: got an email from the SERT yesterday telling me that I would be getting a term-three revised IEP, and she also wanted to know how S liked his training session and the new programs that are on the laptop. I told her how this past weekend was the first time I have ever seen S happy about doing his homework. The stress level seemed to be gone - simply because he doesn't have to struggle with reading AND comprehending what he is reading. She asked me what my thoughts were on him having a novel study assignment, and I told her that I want to see him doing GRADE LEVEL work, and I only want accommodations as needed. I guess we are on the same page, because she seemed happy with my response.
S is a bright boy. He has an average, to above average IQ. He simply does not learn in the conventional way, and now that he finally has all of the devices in place to enable him to learn, I think he SHOULD be doing the work the rest of the class is doing. We shall see how Term 3 goes. He seems so much happier now, and he is much better about going to school. Have we crossed that bridge? I hope so.
Friday, January 25, 2008
Another week down
Truthfully, I am looking forward to this weekend. We have no plans. Well, Saturday afternoon I am going to have a pedicure with Jazzy's mom, but other than that, nothing!
Yesterday I surprised the A-man with a celebratory lunch. I thought it would be nice to celebrate the end of a great semester, and to congratulate him on completing his first exam. He told me he finished it in an hour - it was mostly multiple choice, he said.
S is very excited this morning. It is "Hawaiian" day at school, and kids that dress up will receive spirit points for their team. He had me cutting up a garbage bag for a grass skirt shortly after 7 this morning. He has been doing the 'hola' around the kitchen since. It's always funny to see how excited he gets over such small, simple things. He has been 'planning' today since he heard that it was a spirit day on Tuesday.
I worked about an extra hour last night. Could have worked more, but then boss' wife came in...it was time to go.
Oh - and I am going to the Governor's conference in Jackson, Mississippi on Feb. 17. Another new part of the state I am going to get to see!
Yesterday I surprised the A-man with a celebratory lunch. I thought it would be nice to celebrate the end of a great semester, and to congratulate him on completing his first exam. He told me he finished it in an hour - it was mostly multiple choice, he said.
S is very excited this morning. It is "Hawaiian" day at school, and kids that dress up will receive spirit points for their team. He had me cutting up a garbage bag for a grass skirt shortly after 7 this morning. He has been doing the 'hola' around the kitchen since. It's always funny to see how excited he gets over such small, simple things. He has been 'planning' today since he heard that it was a spirit day on Tuesday.
I worked about an extra hour last night. Could have worked more, but then boss' wife came in...it was time to go.
Oh - and I am going to the Governor's conference in Jackson, Mississippi on Feb. 17. Another new part of the state I am going to get to see!
Friday, January 11, 2008
A confession
Ever since we got them, the cats have always slept by my feet. Neither of them are big cuddle bunnies when sleeping - which is a good thing - but I can usually feel them either by my feet or knees in the middle of the night.
Little Lily often comes and goes. She really liked to sleep under the Christmas tree for a while there. I think she thought she was a lion or something. But, without fail, Abby has always slept with me.
Since the R-man has moved in, she has started to sleep with him. My confession - my feelings are hurt. I mean, he's only been here for less than a week! No fair, no fair, no fair! ;o)
(just kidding)
The A-man did amazing with his Science project! I am simply so surprised at the level of maturity he has attained in such a short period of time. I think the switch of schools has been an incredible boost for him in so many ways. Yippee.
Had a big problem at work yesterday - about 20 minutes before the end of the day. I did what I could to remedy it, but I will have a post-mordom review today, I suppose. I was telling the R-man last night - you can have checklists out the whazzo, and have everything prepared, but you still have to be ready for the element of human error. Fun, fun times. But, on the up side - in a month I will be in Mexico!!
Little Lily often comes and goes. She really liked to sleep under the Christmas tree for a while there. I think she thought she was a lion or something. But, without fail, Abby has always slept with me.
Since the R-man has moved in, she has started to sleep with him. My confession - my feelings are hurt. I mean, he's only been here for less than a week! No fair, no fair, no fair! ;o)
(just kidding)
The A-man did amazing with his Science project! I am simply so surprised at the level of maturity he has attained in such a short period of time. I think the switch of schools has been an incredible boost for him in so many ways. Yippee.
Had a big problem at work yesterday - about 20 minutes before the end of the day. I did what I could to remedy it, but I will have a post-mordom review today, I suppose. I was telling the R-man last night - you can have checklists out the whazzo, and have everything prepared, but you still have to be ready for the element of human error. Fun, fun times. But, on the up side - in a month I will be in Mexico!!
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Today... today I feel deflated- warning..it's long today.
When am I ever going to learn? When am I going to STOP jinxing things? Yes, today (and yesterday...) I feel completely and totally deflated, defeated, and just, well, sad.
The other day I mentioned in one of my posts that S had not had a good day at school, that he had to come home, etc., etc.. I was hoping this was just blip in the day-to-day life of S, but, of course, that is never the case. There always has to be some sort of CRAP to follow us around.
Wednesday morning, I took S to school. We reviewed the events of the previous day, discussed it with the principal...on and on. Wednesday there were no problems at school. Thursday, there were no problems at school. Friday was a PA day. S came to work with me, and we had a meeting at the school to go over his report card. First meeting was with the French teacher. It was fine. Next, S and I go in to our meeting with the classroom teachers, and the SERT joined the meeting, as well.
For the most part, all was good. S has been working hard in class, needs to put a bit more effort in to the written work. The laptop has been very useful, the SERT wants to see him using more of this certain program...yadda, yadda, yadda....going along as expected.
I mention that S has really been enjoying learning how to do sign language, and ask who has been teaching him that. I am told it is his EA - Mrs. A. Then, suddenly, the SERT says, "But she is going to have some difficulty with that for the next little while, isn't she S?" I look over at S, and his head is hung in shame. Confused, but innocently, I say, "Oh, has she hurt herself?" The answer to this question blows me away.
I am informed that Mrs. A has fractured her thumb. I guess when S had been resisting her attempts to bring him to the office - she had taken his hand - he actually pulled/resisted her to the point that her thumb was fractured. I was speechless. My heart dropped. I didn't know what to say. I just said "Oh, dear. Oh, S." He looked ready to cry. After a moment of silence, and uncomfort all around, the meeting resumed.
When we left the meeting, and started to head back to my office, I questioned S about the injury to his EA. I asked if he knew she had been hurt - he did. I was just about to ask him why he hadn't told me she had been hurt when he said something that sent me realing. He said, "She told me that she had to work really hard to convince her husband to not call the police on me."
WHAT?!!???!!!
Of course I am very, very upset that he has caused an injury to his EA. Of course I realize that his actions were very serious, and the fact that he harmed someone - even unintentionally - is very serious. I would never dismiss that as being silly or absurd. Had that happened to me, or anyone I loved, I would also be very angry and upset.
But there is something here that has me even more upset. How could she have felt justified in telling S that her husband wanted to have him charged with assault??!! Firstly, I feel this is very unprofessional, and secondly, I question weather this woman has any clue about both the inability to self-regulate, and/or the anxiety disorder that affects him. If she did, I don't think she would have said this to him. I agree it needed to be addressed - but to ME, and hubby - but NOT to S. I had not even been informed that the EA was injured. (side note - the EA didn't go to hospital the night of injury, but the following night.)
I have been stewing about this since Friday. I have had a lead lump in my stomach since then. I have talked with (many) other EA's, I have emailed S's doctor about this, and I have emailed a police officer friend about all of this. I guess my next step will be to talk to the principal and SERT to go further. If she is going to share this sort of information with S, I don't think she is qualified to assist him. The doctor's specifications were very, very clear on the type of EA for S, and this would NOT be a comment made lightly. The doctor is very upset that the EA would say something this detrimental to S.
I do not think this is appropriate. At all. The one (retired) EA I spoke with told me that when she had a child such as S, she knew that it was possible to undergo issues such as this one, and she also realized that in the heat of the moment, an injury such as this could be possible. Her husband said that he would have put such an injury off to "part of the job" and would have realized the child had not been intentionally causing harm.
The police officer said it is a very difficult situation, and he also questioned weather it should be more a 'school' isuse than a legal issue. He feels that the courts are a place for CRIMINALS, not 12 year olds with "behavourial concerns" - his words, not mine. (Officer did not know of other issues, but legally, that would not matter - which is why I didn't go in to the that.) My email to his approached it simply on a "facts" basis.
I am supposed to have an IPRC meeting one day this week, and I think I will wait until to broach this subject. I want to go charging in there and shout "How dare she???," but I do not think that would be helpful at this point.
And, again, my tummy hurts. And I want to cry.
I'm curious to know - what do you think?
The other day I mentioned in one of my posts that S had not had a good day at school, that he had to come home, etc., etc.. I was hoping this was just blip in the day-to-day life of S, but, of course, that is never the case. There always has to be some sort of CRAP to follow us around.
Wednesday morning, I took S to school. We reviewed the events of the previous day, discussed it with the principal...on and on. Wednesday there were no problems at school. Thursday, there were no problems at school. Friday was a PA day. S came to work with me, and we had a meeting at the school to go over his report card. First meeting was with the French teacher. It was fine. Next, S and I go in to our meeting with the classroom teachers, and the SERT joined the meeting, as well.
For the most part, all was good. S has been working hard in class, needs to put a bit more effort in to the written work. The laptop has been very useful, the SERT wants to see him using more of this certain program...yadda, yadda, yadda....going along as expected.
I mention that S has really been enjoying learning how to do sign language, and ask who has been teaching him that. I am told it is his EA - Mrs. A. Then, suddenly, the SERT says, "But she is going to have some difficulty with that for the next little while, isn't she S?" I look over at S, and his head is hung in shame. Confused, but innocently, I say, "Oh, has she hurt herself?" The answer to this question blows me away.
I am informed that Mrs. A has fractured her thumb. I guess when S had been resisting her attempts to bring him to the office - she had taken his hand - he actually pulled/resisted her to the point that her thumb was fractured. I was speechless. My heart dropped. I didn't know what to say. I just said "Oh, dear. Oh, S." He looked ready to cry. After a moment of silence, and uncomfort all around, the meeting resumed.
When we left the meeting, and started to head back to my office, I questioned S about the injury to his EA. I asked if he knew she had been hurt - he did. I was just about to ask him why he hadn't told me she had been hurt when he said something that sent me realing. He said, "She told me that she had to work really hard to convince her husband to not call the police on me."
WHAT?!!???!!!
Of course I am very, very upset that he has caused an injury to his EA. Of course I realize that his actions were very serious, and the fact that he harmed someone - even unintentionally - is very serious. I would never dismiss that as being silly or absurd. Had that happened to me, or anyone I loved, I would also be very angry and upset.
But there is something here that has me even more upset. How could she have felt justified in telling S that her husband wanted to have him charged with assault??!! Firstly, I feel this is very unprofessional, and secondly, I question weather this woman has any clue about both the inability to self-regulate, and/or the anxiety disorder that affects him. If she did, I don't think she would have said this to him. I agree it needed to be addressed - but to ME, and hubby - but NOT to S. I had not even been informed that the EA was injured. (side note - the EA didn't go to hospital the night of injury, but the following night.)
I have been stewing about this since Friday. I have had a lead lump in my stomach since then. I have talked with (many) other EA's, I have emailed S's doctor about this, and I have emailed a police officer friend about all of this. I guess my next step will be to talk to the principal and SERT to go further. If she is going to share this sort of information with S, I don't think she is qualified to assist him. The doctor's specifications were very, very clear on the type of EA for S, and this would NOT be a comment made lightly. The doctor is very upset that the EA would say something this detrimental to S.
I do not think this is appropriate. At all. The one (retired) EA I spoke with told me that when she had a child such as S, she knew that it was possible to undergo issues such as this one, and she also realized that in the heat of the moment, an injury such as this could be possible. Her husband said that he would have put such an injury off to "part of the job" and would have realized the child had not been intentionally causing harm.
The police officer said it is a very difficult situation, and he also questioned weather it should be more a 'school' isuse than a legal issue. He feels that the courts are a place for CRIMINALS, not 12 year olds with "behavourial concerns" - his words, not mine. (Officer did not know of other issues, but legally, that would not matter - which is why I didn't go in to the that.) My email to his approached it simply on a "facts" basis.
I am supposed to have an IPRC meeting one day this week, and I think I will wait until to broach this subject. I want to go charging in there and shout "How dare she???," but I do not think that would be helpful at this point.
And, again, my tummy hurts. And I want to cry.
I'm curious to know - what do you think?
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Feeling Better
S is in a great mood today. Got ready for school with no problems, and is now just waiting for me to have my shower and drive him in to school. I will have to review the events of yesterday with him as we make the 15 minute drive to school, but the comment Cuz made after reading my post has me wondering about the EA... I will have to get some big time clarification.
Last night, the A-man did some further work on his electricity project. It looks pretty good, to tell the truth. He is really starting to utilize the various features available through Word, and he even seems to realize that I do know my stuff when it comes to computers! ha ha. He asked me for help with inserting one picture in to his document, then he was able to manipulate the remainder of the information himself. I think he is planning on doing the final layout on the bristol board this evening. Wow - imagine that...it's much less stressful to do a project over a number of days, and then you don't feel pressure to complete it all at once! Finally we are getting there. I'm very proud of him.
S has a History project due next Friday. The majority of it will be an 'in school' project, but the teacher has broken down the parts she feels S can/should complete at home. (I had to ask her to do that...) He was very good yesterday afternoon to sit down and review the parts she said to do at home, and he got to work right away on the first part. He did it all (well, all of that one question) with no prompting from me. Let's just see if he will keep it up.
I have the Annual General Meeting tonight for the ADHD association. I will be doing a presentation on the past year, and I will also be presenting the new "Excellence" award. The recipient is on the board, and this is all brand new. The other board members and I had to arrange this on the sidelines so that she wouldn't be aware. After she is no longer the president of the association, the award will be named after her. She is one remarkable lady.
And, we are off to the races...
Last night, the A-man did some further work on his electricity project. It looks pretty good, to tell the truth. He is really starting to utilize the various features available through Word, and he even seems to realize that I do know my stuff when it comes to computers! ha ha. He asked me for help with inserting one picture in to his document, then he was able to manipulate the remainder of the information himself. I think he is planning on doing the final layout on the bristol board this evening. Wow - imagine that...it's much less stressful to do a project over a number of days, and then you don't feel pressure to complete it all at once! Finally we are getting there. I'm very proud of him.
S has a History project due next Friday. The majority of it will be an 'in school' project, but the teacher has broken down the parts she feels S can/should complete at home. (I had to ask her to do that...) He was very good yesterday afternoon to sit down and review the parts she said to do at home, and he got to work right away on the first part. He did it all (well, all of that one question) with no prompting from me. Let's just see if he will keep it up.
I have the Annual General Meeting tonight for the ADHD association. I will be doing a presentation on the past year, and I will also be presenting the new "Excellence" award. The recipient is on the board, and this is all brand new. The other board members and I had to arrange this on the sidelines so that she wouldn't be aware. After she is no longer the president of the association, the award will be named after her. She is one remarkable lady.
And, we are off to the races...
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Mid term reports are in
Hard to believe that much of the school year has passed, but it's true. The A-man brought his report card home yesterday, and he is doing very well. I am very proud of him, but most importantly - HE is very proud of himself.
Mid-term marks:
Another thing that I equate to his new-found successes, and higher self-esteem, is the fact that we have been treating the ADHD. I have always been a little leery about the whole medication end of things, but sometimes we just have to let medication do what it's made to do. There was one morning the A-man was getting ready to leave for school, and I asked him if he'd taken his medication. He said, "Oh, no, I forgot. I have to make sure I do that - my friends have told me I am really annoying when I don't take it." We have noticed a huge difference in the way he acts, and reacts, and the good thing is he is no way in a 'zombie-over-medicated' state. (I have seen kids that way, and I would never allow either of my boys to get that way.)
The other morning - Thursday - I couldn't get the A-man moving, and guess what? He missed his bus. Yup. Monday the new rules are set, Tuesday he makes the bus, Wednesday the bus has to wait, and Thursday - misses it. As I was driving him in to school, we started to discuss what the 'payment' should be for his frequent morning-lateness. I started to explain to him the cost of a taxi from our house to school, the cost of gas for my car, the extra time for me to drive to his school and then back track to work...and then I just remembered something, and stopped talking. I asked him what he thought his payment system should be.
(See, I have to consciously remind myself to follow the "collaborative-method of problem solving" the doctors have recommended, so before I expressed what I thought the punishment should be, suddenly realized that I was starting to control the conversation - which is why I just stopped talking.) I had a bit of payment format in mind, and I was about to start dictating it to him - without his input - and I am glad I didn't go forward with it. His self-punishment was far greater than what I would have come up with! And, since he set the rates, he can't deem it 'unfair.'
Final outcome - for making the bus wait, half of his weekly allowance. For missing the bus - two full weeks allowance. He's up to the better part of $20 now... and when I told him the full amount for the current week, I could see his eyes just bug out of his head. Friday, he was up and ready for school before I was even out of bed!! We will see how this coming week fares...
Mid-term marks:
- Drama - 83%
- Geography - 75%
- Learning Strategies - 93%
- Science - 77%
- Overall average: 82%
Another thing that I equate to his new-found successes, and higher self-esteem, is the fact that we have been treating the ADHD. I have always been a little leery about the whole medication end of things, but sometimes we just have to let medication do what it's made to do. There was one morning the A-man was getting ready to leave for school, and I asked him if he'd taken his medication. He said, "Oh, no, I forgot. I have to make sure I do that - my friends have told me I am really annoying when I don't take it." We have noticed a huge difference in the way he acts, and reacts, and the good thing is he is no way in a 'zombie-over-medicated' state. (I have seen kids that way, and I would never allow either of my boys to get that way.)
The other morning - Thursday - I couldn't get the A-man moving, and guess what? He missed his bus. Yup. Monday the new rules are set, Tuesday he makes the bus, Wednesday the bus has to wait, and Thursday - misses it. As I was driving him in to school, we started to discuss what the 'payment' should be for his frequent morning-lateness. I started to explain to him the cost of a taxi from our house to school, the cost of gas for my car, the extra time for me to drive to his school and then back track to work...and then I just remembered something, and stopped talking. I asked him what he thought his payment system should be.
(See, I have to consciously remind myself to follow the "collaborative-method of problem solving" the doctors have recommended, so before I expressed what I thought the punishment should be, suddenly realized that I was starting to control the conversation - which is why I just stopped talking.) I had a bit of payment format in mind, and I was about to start dictating it to him - without his input - and I am glad I didn't go forward with it. His self-punishment was far greater than what I would have come up with! And, since he set the rates, he can't deem it 'unfair.'
Final outcome - for making the bus wait, half of his weekly allowance. For missing the bus - two full weeks allowance. He's up to the better part of $20 now... and when I told him the full amount for the current week, I could see his eyes just bug out of his head. Friday, he was up and ready for school before I was even out of bed!! We will see how this coming week fares...
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Nothing to report
It's true. There is not much going on here in our lives.
The A-man went to break up beaver dams with his Outdoors club today. Tried to tell me that he sprained his ankle, and therefore couldn't go to Air Cadets tonight. The same fight, week after week. I guess I will just return his uniform - I am not going to fight him on this any longer. It's just not worth it. I would really like him to find outside interests, but I can't force this on him any longer. I'm too tired.
I think I'm giving in on this because he has actually taken the initiative to join this outdoors club and do things with it. He is also taking a hunting course this weekend, so that may be something for him, too. I knew alternatives would be available in highschool (less team sports-oriented only), and for this I am glad.
S tried a similar thing last night with respect to karate, but that is one thing I am not going to allow him to quit - for a couple of reasons. The main one being - he is really good at it, and, truth be told, I think he really does like it, but the kids that attend the classes with him aren't very nice to him. I've noticed that the teachers aren't all that "warm and fuzzy" with him either. A shame, when you consider he is a natural.
Over the years, S has done so well with other things and then quit when it started getting a little bit harder. Piano was a perfect example. He has a natural ear for music, but when the theory homework got to be too much for him, he refused to practise. Had I known about his reading LD, I would have talked to the teacher about not focusing on theory and just allow him to continue to PLAY. Hindsight really is a wonderful thing.
Anyway, I do have an alternative for the karate classes - a different group of kids, and different teachers - but it is going to take some finagling for transportation. I think my friend (Con) has come up with something that may work - but it will depend largely on her ability to come and pick him up a couple nights a week. We are going to test it out for the next couple of weeks and see if that makes a difference.
Busy season at work has started to go to full boil. New assistant seems to be working out well, but now I've just go SO much going, it's hard to stop and take the time to train someone new! Today I actually saw a bit of wood on my one desk, and left the office feeling like I got a number of things completed. That is always a relief.
No homework again tonight... I don't get it. No matter. I am making dinner right now - a seafood pasta dish - and then we are heading out so that S can spend his allowance money - can't save that up for too long. I think he will get a haircut at the same time. Will be kind of nice to not have the running around on Tuesday evenings...
The A-man went to break up beaver dams with his Outdoors club today. Tried to tell me that he sprained his ankle, and therefore couldn't go to Air Cadets tonight. The same fight, week after week. I guess I will just return his uniform - I am not going to fight him on this any longer. It's just not worth it. I would really like him to find outside interests, but I can't force this on him any longer. I'm too tired.
I think I'm giving in on this because he has actually taken the initiative to join this outdoors club and do things with it. He is also taking a hunting course this weekend, so that may be something for him, too. I knew alternatives would be available in highschool (less team sports-oriented only), and for this I am glad.
S tried a similar thing last night with respect to karate, but that is one thing I am not going to allow him to quit - for a couple of reasons. The main one being - he is really good at it, and, truth be told, I think he really does like it, but the kids that attend the classes with him aren't very nice to him. I've noticed that the teachers aren't all that "warm and fuzzy" with him either. A shame, when you consider he is a natural.
Over the years, S has done so well with other things and then quit when it started getting a little bit harder. Piano was a perfect example. He has a natural ear for music, but when the theory homework got to be too much for him, he refused to practise. Had I known about his reading LD, I would have talked to the teacher about not focusing on theory and just allow him to continue to PLAY. Hindsight really is a wonderful thing.
Anyway, I do have an alternative for the karate classes - a different group of kids, and different teachers - but it is going to take some finagling for transportation. I think my friend (Con) has come up with something that may work - but it will depend largely on her ability to come and pick him up a couple nights a week. We are going to test it out for the next couple of weeks and see if that makes a difference.
Busy season at work has started to go to full boil. New assistant seems to be working out well, but now I've just go SO much going, it's hard to stop and take the time to train someone new! Today I actually saw a bit of wood on my one desk, and left the office feeling like I got a number of things completed. That is always a relief.
No homework again tonight... I don't get it. No matter. I am making dinner right now - a seafood pasta dish - and then we are heading out so that S can spend his allowance money - can't save that up for too long. I think he will get a haircut at the same time. Will be kind of nice to not have the running around on Tuesday evenings...
Friday, November 9, 2007
Goofy kid
This morning, S has been acting like a total goof ball. At first, he was just so annoying, but since he took his meds and had breakfast, it has gone from being "smack-your-head-off-the-wall-annoying" to just mildly silly. I just got a great big hug and snuggle....hmmm...that was nice.
Got home from work last night and just crashed on the couch. Didn't take S to karate, didn't make dinner, nothing. I didn't ask the boys about homework - I didn't care. I stayed on that couch all night - then I went to bed. I woke up feel somewhat better today, thankfully.
The A-man saw my blog the other day, and told me he didn't think it very 'internet safe' to have the photo on there, so I have removed it. I explained to him that I thought it would be okay since the photo was quite old, and they have both grown and changed so much, but he still wasn't convinced. I received a lecture about Internet safety, etc., and so it's gone. (I love it when he starts to lecture me on things I have lectured him on - shows that he really does listen to me!! lol)
Thank goodness it's Friday. Been a very long week...
Got home from work last night and just crashed on the couch. Didn't take S to karate, didn't make dinner, nothing. I didn't ask the boys about homework - I didn't care. I stayed on that couch all night - then I went to bed. I woke up feel somewhat better today, thankfully.
The A-man saw my blog the other day, and told me he didn't think it very 'internet safe' to have the photo on there, so I have removed it. I explained to him that I thought it would be okay since the photo was quite old, and they have both grown and changed so much, but he still wasn't convinced. I received a lecture about Internet safety, etc., and so it's gone. (I love it when he starts to lecture me on things I have lectured him on - shows that he really does listen to me!! lol)
Thank goodness it's Friday. Been a very long week...
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Movin' and groovin'
S didn't think he needed to go to karate again last night. I have no idea what is going on with him. Last year he LOVED it, and this year, he seems to be hesitating about going, but every time he does - after class - he is in such a great mood. It's strange. I think he doesn't like to go because the other kids haven't really been very accepting of his oddities, truth be told. But, he enjoys the exercise and the actual craft of karate. I hate the fact that social interactions can mar every single thing this wee boy does.
Last Friday morning I noticed that S didn't bring his laptop home. I asked him about that - and apparently there has been a problem with the program for a few days. I asked him about it over the weekend, and he told me it was fixed. He has just informed me that now there is another new problem with it. I am not pleased. This system has been deemed essential to his learning ability, and yet the special ed teacher is taking her time to try and fix the problem rather than calling in a board specialist to have it fixed. I will give it this week, and this week only. After that, I start raising some kane. You would not see something like a lift for a child in a wheelchair being repaired by a teacher, and taking days to repair it, so the same should be true for a computer for a child with a learning disability. We can't 'classify' a disability.
The A-man will be coming to work with me tomorrow for the annual Grade 9 "Take your kid to work day." He informed me last night that he isn't actually supposed to do any work - that is against labour laws or some such thing. Yeah, right. He's just going to sit and WATCH me work all day? I don't think so. The most dangerous thing that can happen in my office is getting a paper cut - that boy is going to work the database for me! He is not going to sit and look at me all day long. Not a chance.
No problemos with homework tasks last night - although I did need to give a reminder. Huh!
Last Friday morning I noticed that S didn't bring his laptop home. I asked him about that - and apparently there has been a problem with the program for a few days. I asked him about it over the weekend, and he told me it was fixed. He has just informed me that now there is another new problem with it. I am not pleased. This system has been deemed essential to his learning ability, and yet the special ed teacher is taking her time to try and fix the problem rather than calling in a board specialist to have it fixed. I will give it this week, and this week only. After that, I start raising some kane. You would not see something like a lift for a child in a wheelchair being repaired by a teacher, and taking days to repair it, so the same should be true for a computer for a child with a learning disability. We can't 'classify' a disability.
The A-man will be coming to work with me tomorrow for the annual Grade 9 "Take your kid to work day." He informed me last night that he isn't actually supposed to do any work - that is against labour laws or some such thing. Yeah, right. He's just going to sit and WATCH me work all day? I don't think so. The most dangerous thing that can happen in my office is getting a paper cut - that boy is going to work the database for me! He is not going to sit and look at me all day long. Not a chance.
No problemos with homework tasks last night - although I did need to give a reminder. Huh!
Saturday, October 6, 2007
Team Meeting
Had our 'team meeting' yesterday at S's school. Apparently 'the team' is made up of myself, his classroom teacher, his EA and his SERT.
The teacher began the meeting by indicating that she had been through S's permanent record, and commented that it was obvious I have spend a lot of time and efforts trying to ensure he has received the help and support he needs. (gee, ya think?)
Anyway, the meeting went well. We were able to determine what the plan will be if he should become a flight risk, how we will approach certain things, and a few questions were raised. The SERT really wants some clarification about how hormone levels may affect the life of S. I actually have a number of questions I will have to raise to his specialist at our appointment next week.
The main goal for this semester on his IEP will be to help raise S's social skills and understanding. I didn't realize he was taking this certain toy to school, and the EA has told him he is not to bring it anymore. The focus will be on encouraging more socially acceptable behaviour, and toys such as this one are not what the typical Grade 7 would bring to school.
I'm feeling that I am at a difficult point here. I realize that S is socially immature, and he needs to learn what is more socially acceptable, but I also realize that his brain simply isn't ready to behave like a 12 year old. However, at this age, any sort of 'difference' can really make or break a child, so I understand where the teachers are coming from. I have assured them that both hubby and I want to help with S's low self-esteem, and we will agree to working with the school to teach him more age-appropriate actions.
We are heading up to the cottage tomorrow for our family Thanksgiving, and I am going to be making some pumpkin pie, an apple pie, and I think I will also make a lemon meringue for the A-man since that is his favourite. Then, hubby and I are going to spend the evening cuddled on the couch drinking red wine and watching a movie, I think.
I'm also looking forward to the extra sleep on Monday.
The teacher began the meeting by indicating that she had been through S's permanent record, and commented that it was obvious I have spend a lot of time and efforts trying to ensure he has received the help and support he needs. (gee, ya think?)
Anyway, the meeting went well. We were able to determine what the plan will be if he should become a flight risk, how we will approach certain things, and a few questions were raised. The SERT really wants some clarification about how hormone levels may affect the life of S. I actually have a number of questions I will have to raise to his specialist at our appointment next week.
The main goal for this semester on his IEP will be to help raise S's social skills and understanding. I didn't realize he was taking this certain toy to school, and the EA has told him he is not to bring it anymore. The focus will be on encouraging more socially acceptable behaviour, and toys such as this one are not what the typical Grade 7 would bring to school.
I'm feeling that I am at a difficult point here. I realize that S is socially immature, and he needs to learn what is more socially acceptable, but I also realize that his brain simply isn't ready to behave like a 12 year old. However, at this age, any sort of 'difference' can really make or break a child, so I understand where the teachers are coming from. I have assured them that both hubby and I want to help with S's low self-esteem, and we will agree to working with the school to teach him more age-appropriate actions.
We are heading up to the cottage tomorrow for our family Thanksgiving, and I am going to be making some pumpkin pie, an apple pie, and I think I will also make a lemon meringue for the A-man since that is his favourite. Then, hubby and I are going to spend the evening cuddled on the couch drinking red wine and watching a movie, I think.
I'm also looking forward to the extra sleep on Monday.
Monday, October 1, 2007
Lazy night
Just not quite up to snuff tonight. The A-man claimed he only had a little bit of homework - was done in moments. As of right now, I don't have it in me to check it over. I may just take a look at it in a little while, but since he seems to be keeping up on things, I just feel bad when I 'second guess' him.
He got his Science mark back for the project that was due last week. 24 out of 25. I'm very proud of him, but I did make a point of mentioning that he probably wouldn't have received that high a mark if the teacher hadn't given me that 'checking in' phone call. I think he is starting to realize that it does help to put in a wee bit of extra effort - he loves getting the higher marks.
He has often made the comment that I want him to get 'perfect' on everything he does, but that is not true. This is what I tell him when he says that - "I don't want it to be perfect, I simply want it to be the best you can do." He actually repeats it back to me as I am saying it - I hope this means that he is actually hearing what I am saying, and he isn't just being a smarty pants.
What is the point of doing something that isn't to the best of your ability? I mean, if you are going to do it, make sure you are happy with it - don't just do something for the sake of saying you did it. Be PROUD of what you do. I really want both of them to realize this. I truly believe this is a life lesson.
Anyway...off to bed. Been a long, long day. Start training my assistant tomorrow afternoon, so the next little while in the office should be quite unproductive, but with an end in sight, right??
He got his Science mark back for the project that was due last week. 24 out of 25. I'm very proud of him, but I did make a point of mentioning that he probably wouldn't have received that high a mark if the teacher hadn't given me that 'checking in' phone call. I think he is starting to realize that it does help to put in a wee bit of extra effort - he loves getting the higher marks.
He has often made the comment that I want him to get 'perfect' on everything he does, but that is not true. This is what I tell him when he says that - "I don't want it to be perfect, I simply want it to be the best you can do." He actually repeats it back to me as I am saying it - I hope this means that he is actually hearing what I am saying, and he isn't just being a smarty pants.
What is the point of doing something that isn't to the best of your ability? I mean, if you are going to do it, make sure you are happy with it - don't just do something for the sake of saying you did it. Be PROUD of what you do. I really want both of them to realize this. I truly believe this is a life lesson.
Anyway...off to bed. Been a long, long day. Start training my assistant tomorrow afternoon, so the next little while in the office should be quite unproductive, but with an end in sight, right??
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
The honeymoon is over
Well, I guess that's not too bad - almost a whole month before I got "the call."
Yup - got one this afternoon from the EA. It seems S was agitated to the point that she was just not quite sure what to do next. When she let me talk to him, I could tell he was gritting his teeth, and in that "I don't care, I'm really ticked off" mode that he can get in to. I talked to him for a few minutes, then I had to put him on hold to finish on another call. Let's face it - I'm at work...I really do need to still do my job. When I got back to the call, S told me that he would call me back in a minute because he was going to go in to another room.
I guess the EA - what shall I call her? Ummm... Mrs. A works. Okay, so Mrs. A had tried to talk to him, and felt she was getting somewhere, then he ran back in to the classroom. He had ran in to the boy's change room, which was where they had started their conversation. Now, since this was the first time Mrs. A had a bit of an incident with S, she felt it would be easier to have the class leave, rather than risk him having a full blow up while she tried to get him out of the classroom. I can understand that. The students - in both Grades 7 & 8 - left the class, and the teacher, Mrs. S. called down to the office to let them know of the situation. Ms. B decided to come and 'help' with it. (Yeah, I'm sure that did absolutely nothing to help him.)
Anyway, since this was Mrs. A's first witness to what S can do, they decided to call me and see if I could 'talk him down', so to speak. He seemed resistant to talk to me at first, but all it took was one question to have him open up. I asked, "Did somebody say something to hurt your feelings?" Suddenly the angry boy was gone, and a sad, almost crying little boy replaced him. I heard a very small, very sad, "Yes." (Okay, I'm getting through...)
"Who said something that hurt your feelings?" He told me a classmate's name. "What did he say that upset you?" S replied with "Pink Panthers." uhhh... what??!!?!! So, through a bit of a winding conversation, I was able to determine that a group of kids were trying to come up with an intermural team name. S felt that this boy should have picked S's suggested name (The Pink Flaming Flamingos) but this boy decided to go with the consensus - The Pink Panthers. S feels that they shouldn't go with that name because it will break copyright. (HA!)
So, he became upset. He feels that no one ever picks his ideas. He told me that he had thought for two whole days to come up with this name, and he thought it was perfect. But, again, no one liked it. How do you tell him that sometimes that is just the way it is? How do you teach him the skills to realize that a rejection of a person's idea isn't a rejection of the person? His poor wee self-esteem is already so low, and then to have his team mate - one that he considers a friend - pick someone else's name... well, since I know him so well, I understand where he is coming from. So very hard. I talked to him a bit, and he seemed to calm down a fair amount. The biggest concern he has is that people don't listen to him.
I asked to talk to Mrs. A again, and basically asked her point blank why the principal was contacted. I told her that in an event such as this, the SERT is to be contacted as she has a very calming effect on S. Ms. B does not. I guess the teacher was so overwhelmed by this outburst she did what she thought was best, and I can't really fault her for that.
Mrs. S - the classroom teacher - did contact me at work some time after 5 tonight. She was very upset about the whole incident, and was actually taking it very personally, I think. I tried to explain to her that this is just how S is, how he reacts to self-perceived rejection, etc. I did let her know that he likes her very much, that he likes her class, and that she didn't do anything wrong. "This is the reason he has an EA," I tried to explain. I offered some websites for her to read - one in particular that has some amazing strategies for teaching students such as S. Never had a teacher do that before.
Yesterday I contacted the French teacher - just had a few questions I needed answered. Seems like a very well-organized teacher, but didn't seem to be aware of the issues and concerns around S's educational needs. Chatted with her a bit, then fired an email off to the SERT asking her to make sure to inform the French teacher of S's safe plan because I got the impression that the EA didn't attend this class with S. SERT emailed me back today to say that she, personally, spoke with the teacher, explained the whole scenario, and assured me that S did have an EA during that class. Not quite sure where all that was coming from, but whatever. I just know that if he has a new teacher, that does not know of how he can react to stressful situations, we are just sitting on a time bomb. Apparently it has all been cleared up, and the French teacher assured me yesterday that she would begin a modified French program for him. Great.
Okay, now on to the A-man. Get a call from his Learning Strategies teacher today to set up a meeting I had requested. I REALLY want to have a psyscho-ed assessment done on him, but I REALLY don't want to have to pay for it if I can avoid it. I have copies of all the reports from the Toronto hospital, plus the information from the study we participated in during May of last year. I am going to see what I can do. On two of the cognitive tests, the A-man scored in the 99th and the 91st percentile. VERY high. Extremely high. Shows how bright he is. But on the spelling end of things, he scored at the 14th percentile. Differences of these extremes indicate a learning problem. We need to figure out what, exactly, the problem is. So, come Tuesday morning, I am going to plead his case.
Between the phone call from S's EA and S's classroom teacher, I received a phone call from the A-man's science teacher. She wanted to make sure I was aware of his first project being due tomorrow. I told her that I was aware, and that he had been working on it. She said that he had asked some questions today, so she knew he had been doing something. She then told me some of the things she was expecting to see. This was not what he had done so far. Okay - there is time for him to address this.
She then proceeds to tell me that the class turned in science labs today, and the A-man did not follow - or followed very loosely - the example she had provided for them. She told me that she knows the work he turned in is not indicative of what she knows he has learned, and she told me that she would be willing to give him the opportunity to re-do the lab over the three day weekend and resubmit it on Monday. (Friday is a PA day in our board.) She then offered to assist him by giving him a bit of a template to follow for future labs. Wow. I want to kiss this lady, I'm telling you.
I explained that he and I had set up a template for labs a few days ago, and I would have him bring in his memory stick and go over the finer points with her. She was happy to hear this, I think. Found out later that the school doesn't have software compatable to ours, but I am sure we will be able to work something out. (Hubby and I are both computer literate enough to design a template equal to what she sends home.)
Yup - got one this afternoon from the EA. It seems S was agitated to the point that she was just not quite sure what to do next. When she let me talk to him, I could tell he was gritting his teeth, and in that "I don't care, I'm really ticked off" mode that he can get in to. I talked to him for a few minutes, then I had to put him on hold to finish on another call. Let's face it - I'm at work...I really do need to still do my job. When I got back to the call, S told me that he would call me back in a minute because he was going to go in to another room.
I guess the EA - what shall I call her? Ummm... Mrs. A works. Okay, so Mrs. A had tried to talk to him, and felt she was getting somewhere, then he ran back in to the classroom. He had ran in to the boy's change room, which was where they had started their conversation. Now, since this was the first time Mrs. A had a bit of an incident with S, she felt it would be easier to have the class leave, rather than risk him having a full blow up while she tried to get him out of the classroom. I can understand that. The students - in both Grades 7 & 8 - left the class, and the teacher, Mrs. S. called down to the office to let them know of the situation. Ms. B decided to come and 'help' with it. (Yeah, I'm sure that did absolutely nothing to help him.)
Anyway, since this was Mrs. A's first witness to what S can do, they decided to call me and see if I could 'talk him down', so to speak. He seemed resistant to talk to me at first, but all it took was one question to have him open up. I asked, "Did somebody say something to hurt your feelings?" Suddenly the angry boy was gone, and a sad, almost crying little boy replaced him. I heard a very small, very sad, "Yes." (Okay, I'm getting through...)
"Who said something that hurt your feelings?" He told me a classmate's name. "What did he say that upset you?" S replied with "Pink Panthers." uhhh... what??!!?!! So, through a bit of a winding conversation, I was able to determine that a group of kids were trying to come up with an intermural team name. S felt that this boy should have picked S's suggested name (The Pink Flaming Flamingos) but this boy decided to go with the consensus - The Pink Panthers. S feels that they shouldn't go with that name because it will break copyright. (HA!)
So, he became upset. He feels that no one ever picks his ideas. He told me that he had thought for two whole days to come up with this name, and he thought it was perfect. But, again, no one liked it. How do you tell him that sometimes that is just the way it is? How do you teach him the skills to realize that a rejection of a person's idea isn't a rejection of the person? His poor wee self-esteem is already so low, and then to have his team mate - one that he considers a friend - pick someone else's name... well, since I know him so well, I understand where he is coming from. So very hard. I talked to him a bit, and he seemed to calm down a fair amount. The biggest concern he has is that people don't listen to him.
I asked to talk to Mrs. A again, and basically asked her point blank why the principal was contacted. I told her that in an event such as this, the SERT is to be contacted as she has a very calming effect on S. Ms. B does not. I guess the teacher was so overwhelmed by this outburst she did what she thought was best, and I can't really fault her for that.
Mrs. S - the classroom teacher - did contact me at work some time after 5 tonight. She was very upset about the whole incident, and was actually taking it very personally, I think. I tried to explain to her that this is just how S is, how he reacts to self-perceived rejection, etc. I did let her know that he likes her very much, that he likes her class, and that she didn't do anything wrong. "This is the reason he has an EA," I tried to explain. I offered some websites for her to read - one in particular that has some amazing strategies for teaching students such as S. Never had a teacher do that before.
Yesterday I contacted the French teacher - just had a few questions I needed answered. Seems like a very well-organized teacher, but didn't seem to be aware of the issues and concerns around S's educational needs. Chatted with her a bit, then fired an email off to the SERT asking her to make sure to inform the French teacher of S's safe plan because I got the impression that the EA didn't attend this class with S. SERT emailed me back today to say that she, personally, spoke with the teacher, explained the whole scenario, and assured me that S did have an EA during that class. Not quite sure where all that was coming from, but whatever. I just know that if he has a new teacher, that does not know of how he can react to stressful situations, we are just sitting on a time bomb. Apparently it has all been cleared up, and the French teacher assured me yesterday that she would begin a modified French program for him. Great.
Okay, now on to the A-man. Get a call from his Learning Strategies teacher today to set up a meeting I had requested. I REALLY want to have a psyscho-ed assessment done on him, but I REALLY don't want to have to pay for it if I can avoid it. I have copies of all the reports from the Toronto hospital, plus the information from the study we participated in during May of last year. I am going to see what I can do. On two of the cognitive tests, the A-man scored in the 99th and the 91st percentile. VERY high. Extremely high. Shows how bright he is. But on the spelling end of things, he scored at the 14th percentile. Differences of these extremes indicate a learning problem. We need to figure out what, exactly, the problem is. So, come Tuesday morning, I am going to plead his case.
Between the phone call from S's EA and S's classroom teacher, I received a phone call from the A-man's science teacher. She wanted to make sure I was aware of his first project being due tomorrow. I told her that I was aware, and that he had been working on it. She said that he had asked some questions today, so she knew he had been doing something. She then told me some of the things she was expecting to see. This was not what he had done so far. Okay - there is time for him to address this.
She then proceeds to tell me that the class turned in science labs today, and the A-man did not follow - or followed very loosely - the example she had provided for them. She told me that she knows the work he turned in is not indicative of what she knows he has learned, and she told me that she would be willing to give him the opportunity to re-do the lab over the three day weekend and resubmit it on Monday. (Friday is a PA day in our board.) She then offered to assist him by giving him a bit of a template to follow for future labs. Wow. I want to kiss this lady, I'm telling you.
I explained that he and I had set up a template for labs a few days ago, and I would have him bring in his memory stick and go over the finer points with her. She was happy to hear this, I think. Found out later that the school doesn't have software compatable to ours, but I am sure we will be able to work something out. (Hubby and I are both computer literate enough to design a template equal to what she sends home.)
Had to inform the A-man of these developments. He took the information relatively well, considering. I was home for all of 12 minutes before I had to leave again for a meeting, so Hubby got to do the final details with the A-man's project. Must say, they did a very good job with it. Not quite the layout I had in mind, but it is very well done, and more creative than what I would have come up with. Will be sure to give them both gold stars in the morning.
Had a very informative meeting about advocacy tonight. So many people has so many things to learn. Even as a person that is very comfortable with the various acronyms, I must admit that I still have a lot more to learn. Have some homework...
Will write more about that meeting later. Getting quite late, and I really need to go to bed. I am off to Montreal tomorrow after work, so I won't be blogging for a few days. Hubby will have to assist the A-man with his science lab revisons sometime between the fishing derby they are in this weekend. I will be quite tired on Sunday from my 8 hour drive, but I will do whatever helping I can.
Have a great weekend!
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
